Looking for a job during a pandemic is demoralizing. Here are 10 things you can do to help you feel better.

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During this unprecedented time, many people have lost their jobs and are looking for work. The situation is tough. It is depressing. And it is discouraging. You start to lose all confidence in yourself and question your value. To face constant rejection is not easy. Believe me, I know how it feels. I have struggled with my self-esteem and self-worth all my life. So, that is where the work comes in. There are things you can do to help you feel better. Here are some of my tips I have learned from therapy, helpful mentors, research, and online classes. I hope it helps you.

 1.    Be GENTLE with yourself. Don’t listen to your inner saboteur. Write down all the value you do have.

2.    Stop thinking that certain things will make you HAPPY. A “perfect job” and more money does not make you happy. It is proven that money-oriented people have lower life satisfaction.

3.    Stop assuming your PERCEPTIONS are correct. Comparisons are built to mess you up.

4.    Spend less time on SOCIAL MEDIA. A lot of research has shown that the more time you spend on social media, the less happy you become. People present a false representation of their lives – and then you try to compare yourself to that?? Of course, that’s going to bring you down.

5.    Learn about the IMPACT BIAS – the tendency to overestimate the impact of future events.

6.    Learn that the mind pays more attention to the negative than the POSITIVE. Make note of that when you do so you can refocus your mentality.

7.    Learn more about your character STRENGTHS – the qualities that are most essential to who you are.

8.    Do not live in fear. It is the scariest place to be. A therapist once told me that depressed people live in the past and anxious people live in the future. So do your best to live in the NOW.

9.    Remember that FEELINGS are not facts. That took me a long time to understand and it is so true.

10. Finally, be GRATEFUL – observe all you do have. “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” – Eckhart Tolle

 And always REMEMBER, you are not alone.  

RuPaul’s Drag Race – The Brand We All Need

At the recent Emmys, RuPaul’s Drag Race won six out of 10 nominations, including Outstanding Competition Program (the third consecutive win) and Outstanding Host for A Reality or Competition Program (the fifth consecutive win). A significant achievement, making it Emmys’ most awarded competition show ever – an impressive 19 victories across a 11-year run. Check out RuPaul’s acceptance speech below.

I was late to the game when it came to Drag Race but since the pandemic started, I’ve been catching up and am now obsessed. And I’m fascinated by how this totally camp (and hilarious) reality show featuring drag queens is so beloved and well-received. The show, and its many spin-offs, has a devoted cult-like following. Not only is it outrageous and funny, there is a distinct message RuPaul consistently delivers in every episode – one of self-acceptance and love.  

If you’re a fan of the show, you’re familiar with the term “self-saboteur,” which is one that resonates with me personally because I’ve struggled with shame and low self-esteem for as long as I can remember. What RuPaul does so well, amid the engaging competition, is to have heartfelt conversations with the participating queens helping them work through past trauma and shame.

His encouraging message hasn’t changed over the years either. RuPaul has said himself that if you go back and look at old YouTube videos of him from back in the early 80s in NYC, he was always talking about expressing yourself and learning to love yourself. A message so many of us need to hear.

I read an article recently where Rupaul said that he felt he was always destined for something big in life, but in order to get there he knew he had to unlock the limiting views he had of himself. Since then, he has been passionate about helping those in the LGBTQ community extract their shame about being their authentic selves: “That’s why I always say you have to learn to love yourself. It takes practice. So through our show; through example, that is what my platform is: to take the shame out of being gay, out of being yourself.”

Such wise words. And the reason his platform is deserving of all the Emmys. Today, the Drag Race world is expanding, including international versions in the U.K., Canada (so good!) and the Netherlands. And the original version recently finished filming it’s 13th season and has begun filming the six season of All Stars. CAN’T WAIT.

Thank you, RuPaul for not only giving us amazing drag queens but also consistently delivering an important message – “If you can’t love yourself, HOW IN THE HELL are you supposed to love someone else.” Amen.

Lady Gaga & Joan Collins Win The Met Gala Red Carpet

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Lady Gaga, Celine Dion, Lupita Nyong’o and Dame Joan Collins at the 2019 Met Gala.

With the theme of the Met’s 2019 Costume Exhibition being “Camp: Notes on Fashion,” we knew this was going to be a especially fun year for watching the Met Gala arrivals. Camp style is essentially defined as irreverent, tacky, ironic, fabulous, over-the-top and exaggerated style. Stars like Lady Gaga, no stranger to camp fashion, did not disappoint. Her Met Gala entrance is one of the most theatrical ever (next to Rihanna’s many legendary appearances). And although many fashion watchers were upset Rihanna was a no-show this year, Gaga and the legendary Joan Collins won the night. Continue reading “Lady Gaga & Joan Collins Win The Met Gala Red Carpet”

Oscars Fashion Recap And Billy Porter’s Cher Moment

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Lady Gaga, Jennifer Lopez, Gemma Chan and Charlize Theron at the 2019 Oscars.

After all the hype and controversy surrounding the Oscars this year, I expected something…well…unexpected. A surprise host or a group of former Oscars winners making an appearance on stage together but none of that happened. It was relatively tame show except for Olivia Colman winning over Glenn Close and Green Book taking best picture. But there were some highlights on the red carpet this year – some drama and so much pink! Also, can we all be thankful for Billy Porter? For making the kind of entrance we were anticipating from Lady Gaga. Now on to the clothes. Continue reading “Oscars Fashion Recap And Billy Porter’s Cher Moment”

Emmys Style Recap – Boring Show, Some Impressive Dresses

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Sarah Paulson, Thandie Newton, Keri Russell and Jessica Biel on the Emmys Red Carpet.

The 70th Emmy Awards took place last night and they were the lowest rated ever – no shocker there. But luckily many of the stars (and their talented stylists) came to play in some memorable looks.  We all know the Emmys aren’t the Met Gala or the Oscars but these days, with the power of Hollywood’s top stylists, most celebs don’t take any red carpet lightly. My top style pics of the night are below, along with a couple of slight misses and one rather unfortunate look.  Continue reading “Emmys Style Recap – Boring Show, Some Impressive Dresses”

Met Gala Recap – Clothes And Catholicism

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Rihanna, Jennifer Lopez, Janelle Monáe and Amber Heard at the 2018 Met Gala

Fashion’s biggest night never disappoints. The annual fundraiser for the Met’s Costume Institute is hands down the most exclusive event of the year – many consider it the most elitist event in the world. Tickets start at a staggering $30,000 and Anna Wintour oversees and approves every person who attends. So basically if Anna doesn’t like you, you’re not going. This year’s theme “Heavenly Bodies: Fashion and the Catholic Imagination” explores the innate connection between fashion and religion. Continue reading “Met Gala Recap – Clothes And Catholicism”

Oscar Fashion Recap: JANE FONDA IS 80!

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Nicole Kidman, Lupita Nyong’o, Jane Fonda and Jennifer Lawrence at the 2018 Oscars

Just like I predicted, once again Nicole Kidman and Jane Fonda stole the show. Red carpets are better when either one of them grace us with their presence. Thankfully they both showed up to the 90th annual award show – and they came to play. Because it was a special anniversary, lots of stars showed up including many Hollywood veterans. I had no doubt some we were going to be in for some incredible and memorable looks. From Kidman in Armani Privé to Fonda in Balmain to Nyong’o in Atelier Versace, last night’s red carpet had a bit of everything and gave us a few looks fashion lovers won’t forget.  Continue reading “Oscar Fashion Recap: JANE FONDA IS 80!”


Toronto’s fashion community continues to impress me. I’m lucky enough to know many clever and talented people in the industry, like my friend, Mark Patrick Foreman, a designer and popular DJ. Mark is the creative force behind FUNKD, a cool and stylish line he started a few years ago to support and empower local communities by having everything locally and ethically produced. Their mission is to create fun, fashionable and comfortable clothing that’s made with Canadian craftsmanship. And trust me, these clothes are everything he set them out to be, and more.  Continue reading “Je Suis FUNKD”

Golden Globes 2018 – Red Carpet Recap

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Nicole Kidman, Tracee Ellis Ross, Margo Robbie and Zoe Kravitz at the 2018 Golden Globes.

This year’s Golden Globes red carpet was unlike any other. Nearly all attendees wore black and it made for a powerful statement standing in solidarity with #TimesUp to protest discrimination and sexual harassment against women. While the ladies were for the first time ever all in the same colour on the red carpet, they still added their own stylistic touch and stood out in their own unique way. Because this year’s silent protest was for an important cause, a typical red carpet review doesn’t seem appropriate so I’ve included the looks I thought stood out the most.  Continue reading “Golden Globes 2018 – Red Carpet Recap”

2017’s Most Memorable Red Carpet Looks

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Nicole Kidman, Celine Dion, Tracee Ellis Ross, Cindy Crawford & Naomi Campbell 

As we all know, 2017 has been quite the year. But in spite of the constant onslaught of bad news, on the lighter side, there were some memorable red carpets looks. Like I do annually, here’s a look-back at some of the year’s most impressive or talked-about style moments. Celine Dion, Tracee Ellis Ross, Nicole Kidman and (my girl) Cindy Crawford all had a solid style year.  Continue reading “2017’s Most Memorable Red Carpet Looks”